It will be six months since the will-be-ex walked out on 2 June 2011.
i've got an old wedding photograph of us signing our wedding certificate and laughing together.
i thought it would be fun and healing to take the photo out of the frame and send the photo to his house with a couple of speech bubbles saying something comical about the whole thing.
my original ideas got shot down by my family. they think i can pull something better out of my creative jackpot but i'm sooooo tired and mentally stretched that i just can't face it anymore and was wondering if you, my darling peeps, would try and come up with something to get my juices flying. doesn't matter how inane it is. it might be the catalyst to get the right combo finally coming tumbling out.
we are facing each other in the photo, he is on the right of the photo and i'm on the left. both sitting down. he has the pen poised, ready to sign and we are both looking at each other, mid-laugh.
i basically want to jog his memory that fat-arse shouldn't forget that 3 dec 2011 is the day we can legally say we've been separated for 12months. oh, and he'd better remember to start saving cos divorces aren't free.
I say, this financial plan only benefits me. I don't ever need a job and can play online games while you cook and clean for me like a good old timely wife.
--I can't think of a good quote for you :( Everything sounds harsh and makes you look bad.
lol. it might get some gears going. i had another poignant photo of me in my dress looking very reflective = must have been a shot i wasn't expecting and i was going to send it to him with a blurb saying "do you think she knew what she was in for?", but mum shot it down as not worth wasting a nice photo on, so i'm sending it mumma morning instead.
I FINALLY GOT IT!
ME: AS SANDS THROUGH THE HOURGLASS, SO ARE THE DAYS OF YOUR WIFE...6 MONTHS TO GO & THEN I GET TO HAVE ANOTHER PARTY!
HIM: HAAHAHAAHA....AM I INVITED?
ME: NO, BUT YOU CAN PAY FOR IT...BETTER START SAVING!
hahahah that is a good one.
I changed it somewhat...here's the new edit
me: As sands through the hourglass, so are the days of your wife...guess what?! In less than 6 months I can have another big party!
him: I like parties! You invite me?
me: No, I’ve already booked a clown!
and then in a blurb i add something along the lines of:
TO THE YOUNG & THE RESTLESS
FROM THE BOLD & THE BEAUTIFUL
THE DAYS OF OUR LIVES (& THIS SOAP OPERA)
WILL SOON DRAW TO A CLOSE.
D-DAY IS FROM 3 DECEMBER 2011!
BE PREPARED FOR YOUR SHARE OF THE COSTS.
I finally posted the photo on Tuesday, 21 June. I was a bit immature and put on the return to sender bit 'stick up your arse and bin when done' which my parents were worried about but i was in a rush and got narky at the whole having to put a return address, as i seriously never want to see the damn thing again after this. it was strange that i didn't sleep from 4am the next morning. don't know if it's related or not. could of just been the cat licking his butt continually for an hour or more. and then again with the same procedure an hour after that. damn fuzzball!
more than likely nerves? bit immature, but i bet it felt good!
True Whipblade...but then again...um...yeah, you're right it was nerves...(but that bum-licking is soooo damn annoying ;)
The prick's cousin-in-law told me yesterday that the prick's sister asked how I was and then commented that she felt sorry for me but she had to stand by her brother. Which is a strange thing to say since they have nothing to do with with this guy's wife (who is her first cousin) but happily have plenty to do with the first cousin's husband.
It just made me feel weird that she'd even say something like that because if one of her own male cousins and uncle can take the time to contact me and ask how i'm doing, what's their excuse? honestly, actions speak louder than words. no one expects them to be my in-laws, but i figure that if i'm going to be 'dead' to them, mind their own damn business!
i'm still feeling torn between unsure whether i'm supposed to be touched by the concern, angry or blantantly wanting to give them all the mental finger. i seriously don't want to talk to them or acknowledge them when i do end up encountering them in the future. it's the only way i think i can keep a civil tongue in my head.
one consolation is that the cousin-in-law (who's a great friend of mine) turned round and told them i was doing fantastic! lol.
Mmyep avoiding like plague sounds like the way to go.
It's a long time since the last time I went here! (sorry lot of things to do) But I've always thinking of you! ;)
Btw I agree with Torama and, I'm pleased for you that the cousin-in-law is helping you!
xxx
Awww...i loves youse all i does! :)
Received the papers back with his signature on it today. Yet to see if he'll pay any moolah towards it. Something says don't hold your breath. I did slip a breakdown of fees in with the paperwork, plus where he could it signed etc etc.
I was wondering over the past few days if he had met someone online and went overseas to meet them. Dunno. just a thought. would be nice if he had... :)
You being nice to him or you hoping he'll skip the country? :P
You being nice to him or you hoping he'll skip the country? :P
**snickers!** Torama, stop stealing the best lines! XD
You being nice to him or you hoping he'll skip the country? :P
Ohhh! Who's a comedian now?! ROFL
He replied he will be getting paid next week so he'll work on his half of the divorce fees then. hoping no hiccups.
As usual, truth is stranger than fiction (is that the right quote?). His secret is out. He went to Thailand by himself for 2-3 weeks in November, and his family are being cagey about the details.
Maybe he will get that non-lethal but extremely painful STD that i was joking about after all.
Yes, Thailand has many wonderous things to look at and he may have done some sightseeing, but it's also got a roaring sex trade. And he's a young male in his FAT prime who spent most of his life either at work, playing games or slapping his monkey to internet porn before he left (i don't have much faith he's changed his hobbies).
And he doesn't have anyone special in his life at this moment.
Anyone wanna buy a large frame print of me and him at the wedding? i can autograph it for you! hahahaahaaa...ok, done in bad taste...p.s. i have 3 if you're serious ;) heehee
Right quote... and who knows? The Fates work in many strange ways... XD He may end up with another STD that will be painful and last a lifetime, or as the rest of the world calls them, KIDS... XD
Hmmmm how about (b1)Gee signing this means you need to grow up! (b2) hehehe yeah sure grow up...